In the last few months I have become a single mum and I’m living with my mother. I’m in a transition space.
I’ve got to separate formally from my partner, sell the house, and find somewhere to live, as well as raise my child. It’s not an easy spot to be in, but it is what it is and I have to work through it. I’m thankful every day. I’m on leave until mid-January which means I get to have more time with my child.
My favourite things in life are definitely my daughter. I am going to put food and alcohol together as another favourite and the third would be people. I really enjoy hanging out with people who know me and that I can just laugh and relax with.
For me being a woman means you’re very busy. It’s hard work. That’s what it is to me. Doing all the things that people take for granted and they don’t necessarily see. Being a woman is about being a juggler and a nurturer.
I’m a born and bred Canberran. I was in Brisbane for six years and Sydney for a couple of years and came back because my family were here. So it’s my home. I never thought I’d come back. I thought “Never in my life will I go back to that shithole.” But, it’s got everything. Anyone who says there’s nothing to do, I mean seriously, get involved because there’s so much on. There’s always a festival or a market or something.
I think being a woman in Canberra is easy for me because my family is here and my close friends are here, they are the people that know me best in the world. There are also lots of restaurants and there’s always somewhere nice to go.
The hardest thing about being a woman in Canberra for me at the moment is—I feel like now my options are limited in terms of leaving if I wanted to. Not that I want to at this moment, I’m trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s father as much as I can. But can I move overseas? Can I move to Darwin? I feel quite restricted. I’m thinking as I move forward things will just sort themselves out. I try not to look at how much my life’s going to be smaller at this point, and just take each day as it comes.
I find maintaining my health in Canberra is easier because we have access to so much in the health system. We’ve got fresh fruit and vegetables, that’s not unique to Canberra I suppose, but it is somewhat unique to Australia. There’s so many mountains you can go and climb. It’s just about getting involved really. I wouldn’t call myself the healthiest person on the planet! At the moment with everything that’s going on I’m taking a back seat.
My perfect day in Canberra would be a sunny winter’s day. I would be somewhere outdoors, going for a walk with my daughter, then catching up with someone for coffee or for lunch. That’s a good day for me.
Image created by Liz Thompson